Your subconscious thoughts are putting the brakes on your prosperity train. But with this simple trick and a few minutes a day, your prosperity can be back on track and full steam ahead!
I don’t think these are the thoughts I thought I was thinking.
Your mind is a never-ceasing stream of thoughts, ideas, feelings, beliefs, and emotions, all bubbling up from the deep recesses of your subconscious. If you’re like most people, those subconscious thoughts seem to have a mind of their own. Oftentimes, they are even contrary to your own conscious desires.
The idea that you have subconscious thoughts and that those thoughts can be negative probably isn’t news to you. What you might be surprised to learn, however, is that most methods taught to quiet these negative thoughts aren’t very effective.
Let’s explore some surefire ways of working with your subconscious, but first, a quick brush up on the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind. Or, “Please, not another iceberg analogy!”
The human mind is a fascinating and complex phenomenon which arises out of the equally fascinating and exponentially more complex human brain. Most models of the mind will have at least two parts, the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. Some models have many more parts, and some use different names, but the conscious and subconscious are generally accepted.
The conscious mind is the “you” that thinks of itself as “you.” It’s the waking, thinking, logical part of the mind. When you think about what you’d like to manifest into your life, it’s your conscious mind that’s doing the thinking. When you look in the mirror and state your affirmations, it’s your conscious mind doing the talking.
Since the conscious mind is the perspective from which you normally experience life, it’s pretty easy to comprehend.
The subconscious mind can be a little bit trickier to explain. The subconscious is the realm of belief, emotion, and habit. It works automatically and has little use for logic. When you tear up at a Hallmark commercial, that’s your subconscious. When you get that little stab of fear when stepping onto an escalator, even though you’ve never ever been hurt on an escalator, that’s your subconscious.
When you decided to talk to your boss about how you’re being over-worked and you deserve a raise, but chicken out at the last minute (after all, “everyone is working hard, what makes me so special” and “he’s not going to approve it anyway” and “my coworkers would be mad at me if I got a raise”), that’s your subconscious.
A key point in thinking about the subconscious is that as a percentage of your mind, it is much larger than your conscious mind. Therefore, it is incredibly difficult for your conscious thoughts to “overpower” your subconscious patterns.
Hey! I thought we were friends.
So why is the subconscious creating these negative thoughts, anyway? Well, believe it or not, it’s simply carrying out its function. That is, it’s trying to keep you safe. Think of your subconscious as a nine year old version of yourself. That nine year old you doesn’t know a whole lot about the world. She does know what’s familiar. And since the world can be so big and scary to the subconscious, it’s much better to keep you safe and sound, surrounded by what you already know.
Your subconscious mind has what can be termed a “life script.” This script explains exactly who you are and what your world is like.
Jeremiah Wolfe: Chubby. Socially awkward. Intelligent. Bad at sports. Good at math. Comes from a working class family who work hard, have a comfortable home, drive used cars, and never go on vacations.
This (overly simplified) description is something like what my life script used to look like and, in some ways, still does. Your life script is built by your subconscious mind throughout your childhood and into early adolescence. Your mind looks around your world and infers from it who you are and how you fit in. That is your “safe zone” and for the rest of your life, your subconscious mind is trying to keep you in your safe zone.
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If you could graph out your life, drawing a line to mark the high point and the low points, it might look something like the EKG readout of a slow heartbeat. Lots of periods right in the middle with the occasional spike up and the occasional spike down.
The up spikes are really great times in our lives where everything seems to be going our way. It’s wonderful to be in one of those places, but it seems like, inevitably, things come back down and we find ourselves back in our usual place.
This might be the promotion and raise that you’ve been working so hard to get. At first it’s great, you’re enjoying the new responsibility and the increased pay, but after a few months, you find yourself working more hours than ever and now that you’re on a salary with no overtime, you’re actually making less money.
The inverse is also true. The low spikes in the “heartbeat” are the bad times in our lives. They’re miserable to be in, but usually things work out and you’re back to your usual level again.
As an example, this might be the car breaking down and you being stuck with the repair bills.
It seems like a lot of the time, just like in the EKG heartbeat readout, these highs and lows are right next to each other. You find out you’re getting a big tax return, and then your car breaks down. When the dust settles, things worked out, but you’re no better off.
I think I need a transplant.
The reason for these ups and downs is, in many cases, your subconscious mind. Your thoughts create your reality. If the subconscious see you a certain way (your life script), it will work incredibly hard to ensure that your life matches that predefined view.
So then, if you want to change your life, you must FIRST change your subconscious mind, your life script.
I love you, bro!
The first and most important thing to remember when working with your subconscious mind is this: Your subconscious mind is your friend.
It may not seem it at times, but it’s doing its best to keep you safe (physically and emotionally) and keep you alive. Things like happiness and prosperity take a back seat to life and safety, so you need to help the subconscious learn new behaviors that will keep you safe and happy, alive and prosperous.
Your subconscious is your friend. I can’t say it enough.
Turn up the volume.
So much of what is taught in dealing with the subconscious are techniques to ignore or to silence it. No! That is exactly what you don’t want to do. I can’t tell you how many people are looking for ways to “silence my ‘monkey mind.’” I understand why you might want that. The subconscious, after all, isn’t always the most positive. And for years you’ve heard that to master the mind we must silence it, by willing it into submission.
Remember, the subconscious is like a snapshot of a younger, less experienced you. Imagine that younger you, or any 9 or 10 year old child. What happens to a child who is ignored, silenced, and willed into submission? Sometimes you get what you want, a docile, respectful, submissive child, but only for the short term. In the long term, that child is going to have issues and those issues manifest in big, unpleasant ways.
It’s the same with your subconscious. You can wrestle it into submission, but it’s going to come back and bite you in the ass one day. I can pretty much guarantee it.
So then, if we can’t silence it, if we can’t will it into submission, how do we deal with the subconscious?
You start communicating with it.
Simple Trick: Listen
Your subconscious mind is talking to you all the time. But, most people are really good at ignoring it. The little emotional twangs throughout your day… subconscious. The subtle intuition and gut reactions… subconscious. The sudden sparks of inspiration… you guessed it, subconscious. Learning to tune in and hear those more subtle forms of communication is a skill in and of itself, one which we’ll discuss in other articles, but for now let’s work on a more direct approach.
The best way to easily get in touch with your subconscious is to simply sit down and listen.
When: Any time, though I find right before bed to be best.
Where: A quiet, comfortable place. Preferably the same place each day.
Length: 10 – 15 minutes.
Technique: Simply sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, and listen. At first, your mind will race and all sorts of thoughts about everything going on in your life will rush forward. That’s okay. Let them. Listen to them, acknowledge them. Eventually, the thoughts will calm. Then just listen some more. When you create the space for the subconscious to speak, it will. Just be sure to listen.
Why: You perform this simple “meditation” (if you can call it that) for the same reason you call your mother, or you go out with a friend for lunch. When someone is important to us, we want to know what’s happening in their life — we want to know how they’re doing and what they’re thinking about. As silly as it sounds, your subconscious wants to be your best friend, but like any relationship, it must be nurtured.
Tips & Tricks: Here are a few tips and tricks to make the most of this practice.
- Set an appointment for a specific time (even if it’s as specific as “right before bed”) and do this every day. Then, honor that appointment. The subconscious is a creature of habit and sticking to a routine will show that this is important to you.
- It takes time. Most people never give their mind a break. From the moment we wake up it’s go go go, and when we have time to relax, we pull out our phone, open the laptop, or turn on the TV. You need time to process the day and if the only time you allow yourself is the 10 minutes you set aside for this exercise, then don’t be surprised that the initial deluge of thought doesn’t quiet within that first 15 minutes. Either give yourself more time as part of this exercise, or create some additional quiet mental space throughout your day.
- Our brains hate silence. At least, that’s how we’ve trained them. So it’s important to listen to that deluge of thoughts that come to you. You’ll notice a shift when the thoughts become less urgent. This signals that the brain is now just trying to fill the gaps. At this time, just tell yourself, “Okay I’ll think about that stuff later. Now I’m talking with my subconscious.”
- Ask a question. Communicating with the subconscious isn’t just about listening, it’s about communicating. So ask questions.
- Listen with more than your ears. For some people, this sort of communication is just like having a spoken conversation and they can even “hear” the replies in their head. That might not be the case for you, however. The communication can happen in emotion, insights, sounds, feelings, images, really just about any way you can imagine. As you practice and get better at this, the communication becomes much more efficient.
Learning to sit and listen to your subconscious is a very rewarding practice. As you get to know your subconscious mind, your conscious and subconscious begin to align. As you come into alignment, you’ll be able to stop fighting against the limiting beliefs of your subconscious and instead harness its incredible power as a tool to empower your prosperity.
Have your own experiences with your subconscious mind. I’d love to hear about them! Comment below.